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The open-source what now?
Apr. 22nd, 2008 01:36 pmSo, as I was scanning my f-list just now, I saw a number of posts mentioning something called the "Open-Source Boob Project."
So, I went and read the post, glossing over the few hundred comments responding to it. And felt a tingle go down my spine.
Now don't get me wrong - I'm all about the "it's-not-dirty-it's-a-normal-part-of-your-anatomy" view of the socially-sensitive bits of body* - but something about it gave me a "back away slowly" vibe. Maybe it's that the guy comes off as creepy. Maybe it's the writing. If someone came up to me with a reverent (read:wide-eyed and staring) expression, nervous, and quiet, asking me "can I touch it," my instinct would be to say "no" with no regard to whatever "it" happened to be. Boobs, puppy, can of soup, you name it.
I really think what wigs me out a bit isn't the fact that it's wanting to touch racks. It's wanting to touch people with varying degrees of acquaintance and context. As I just mentioned, if some random guy came up asking to touch my face, feet, or shoulders, I'd say no just as quickly as I would to the same question regarding my breasts. Even if a friend came up to me, wanting to touch my knees with no context whatsoever, I'd be a little cautious. I'd probably let a friend go ahead, but ask why the hell they'd want to. But red flags would go off in my head if they gave me a spiel about desexualizing the human kneecap and having no reason other than wanting to touch, never mind hearing the same bit from a stranger. And I think the general population is going to ask for an explanation when faced with that one.
Not to say that I'm anti-boob-touches. I've been in situations where a friend or more of mine (female, pretty close) were discussing breasts openly, and felt that theirs were unnatural somehow and pretty much everyone around offered theirs as comparison. Or I have a friend of mine with whom boob-grabbing is our standard greeting due to an inside joke. That's one thing. I'm not 100% sure why, but this is another.
I don't know. I think it's just the guy that gives me the willies. There's something deep in what you could whittle the original idea down to that strikes a chord with me, but everything else just ruins it.
What do you guys think? If you have ideas as to why this wigs me out/shouldn't, I'm all ears.
-H
*Though I admit to having no problems accepting free things from men behind counters who stare openly at my breasts.
So, I went and read the post, glossing over the few hundred comments responding to it. And felt a tingle go down my spine.
Now don't get me wrong - I'm all about the "it's-not-dirty-it's-a-normal-part-of-your-anatomy" view of the socially-sensitive bits of body* - but something about it gave me a "back away slowly" vibe. Maybe it's that the guy comes off as creepy. Maybe it's the writing. If someone came up to me with a reverent (read:wide-eyed and staring) expression, nervous, and quiet, asking me "can I touch it," my instinct would be to say "no" with no regard to whatever "it" happened to be. Boobs, puppy, can of soup, you name it.
I really think what wigs me out a bit isn't the fact that it's wanting to touch racks. It's wanting to touch people with varying degrees of acquaintance and context. As I just mentioned, if some random guy came up asking to touch my face, feet, or shoulders, I'd say no just as quickly as I would to the same question regarding my breasts. Even if a friend came up to me, wanting to touch my knees with no context whatsoever, I'd be a little cautious. I'd probably let a friend go ahead, but ask why the hell they'd want to. But red flags would go off in my head if they gave me a spiel about desexualizing the human kneecap and having no reason other than wanting to touch, never mind hearing the same bit from a stranger. And I think the general population is going to ask for an explanation when faced with that one.
Not to say that I'm anti-boob-touches. I've been in situations where a friend or more of mine (female, pretty close) were discussing breasts openly, and felt that theirs were unnatural somehow and pretty much everyone around offered theirs as comparison. Or I have a friend of mine with whom boob-grabbing is our standard greeting due to an inside joke. That's one thing. I'm not 100% sure why, but this is another.
I don't know. I think it's just the guy that gives me the willies. There's something deep in what you could whittle the original idea down to that strikes a chord with me, but everything else just ruins it.
What do you guys think? If you have ideas as to why this wigs me out/shouldn't, I'm all ears.
-H
*Though I admit to having no problems accepting free things from men behind counters who stare openly at my breasts.
