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Wow, cute pictures.

Now I'm sad I wasn't invited. *sadness*

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Who knows us? And seemed offended they weren't invited?

The photographer will be posting pictures to his site in about 3 weeks.

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Yay, pictures! See any you like on flickr? =)

And I screened it in case it hurt or made you guys feel guilty or some such thing - I thought that it would be in bad taste to leave it up. I'm giving the commenter benefit of the doubt, seeing as they might not have known that both you and Shaughn read my LJ. =/ I don't think they would do something crass like that on purpose.

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We would have loved nothing more than to invite every single person that we know, but unfortunately, we had to make some cuts. Not all of them were ideal, but in some cases it boiled down to who we see more frequently.

If someone wanted to be a part of our wedding day and wasn't, we apologize, but there was just no way to get everything and everyone. Most likely, we wanted you there as well. It was not a value judgment, it was a difficult game of numbers and critical decisions. We even dropped the ball on a few people simply because we were overwhelmed and failed to quadruple check the final mailing lists.

If someone is my friend, they can be honest with me and tell me that they wished they could have been there and offer their congratulations from afar.

No slight was intended to anyone (well, maybe a couple distant family members), and I am sorry if we weren't able to get everyone there. If this person wants to know why they didn't make the cut, they can ask and I'll be completely honest with them.

To my mind, it wasn't the guest list that was the hardest decision to make, it was picking groomsmen. Tell me that's not a can of worms.

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That's why I kinda want to forego a wedding court if I ever get married. Plus, the original point was to have the power of virgin bridesmaids to ward off the devil - and all my candidates like sex too much. xD

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I hope my comment wasn't taken as offense. It was just a reflection that the event looked beautiful and that I wished I could be there, not that you "should" have invited me, by any means.

And I did congratulate you, remember? :)

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Oh, yeesh. I don't know if it's my comment that was screened, though I'm assuming by seeing it in gray that it was.

All I actually said was: "Wow, cute pictures. Now I'm sad I wasn't invited. *sadness*" I hadn't at all meant it to be a pity play, but I realize also that

hazliya doesn't know me quite as well as

shogunhb does.

Perhaps I should have added a smiley. I dunno.

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I was sure you didn't mean anything by it, but I didn't want to take the chance in case someone else didn't. I have a bunch of people who scan my LJ, and there are a lot of people on LJ who like to stir up drama. =)

Looking back, I guess I should have locked the post for Shaughn, Nuance, and Adam, since I took the pictures for them, and so as not to upset anyone who didn't get to go. I can be oblivious like that sometimes. =/

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Honestly? I reeeeeeeally don't think the original comment is too big of a deal, given my further comments. I'm glad to have seen the pics; I would have had no idea how pretty the bride's dress was otherwise!

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You'd be surprised at how many people are hyper-sensitive. Even something friendlier-sounding would've been hurtful. I've already had an LJ episode happen from that sort of thing in the past, so I figured it was better to be safe than sorry in case any of those types still trolled my journal.

I apologize if it made you self-conscious, though. And I'm glad you ommented again - otherwise there would've been potential for the drama harpies to descend. =/

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I never saw the congratulations, I just saw "Screened: Don't want to offend anyone."

So I tried to make a generalized statement about my position and feelings regarding those who did not make it onto our final list.

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Thank you! I'm sad that we couldn't invite everyone. You made the long list, which basically consisted of everyone we knew at any point in our lives... ever, whom we were on good terms with. Oh, plus family. All family. Everywhere.

That list was very long.

You also made the first cut which removed distant family and potentially massive drama. This list was not very different from my New Year's Party invite list.

That list was also very long.

The short list was compiled, then padded with the guests and significant others of the short list... then shortened again.

Considering how many people you know (You nexus, you), if you ever get married, you'll either have to rent out an aircraft carrier or just elope.

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I guess I should have locked the post for Shaughn, Nuance, and Adam

No. Don't cave in to the drama llama. Locked posts are for sissies. :)

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Wedding Court lottery. It's the only way to go. Or some kind of most-extreme-elimination challenge!

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Oh, man. I wish you could've spent one day in my high school. xD

~120 girls per class, 75% in the high-income bracket, 25% with some sweet connections.

We had drama. Oh, did we have drama.

But, yeah. I know several people who troll my journal who would've said something like "Oh, nice pix. Thanks for rubbing it in our faces that we didn't get to go. I would never do something like that to you, but it's cool. I guess I'm just a different person."

Just an example of what I'm used to dealing with. x.x

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After seeing my comment about not wanting a bridal party,

elenuial told me that he's having groomspeople. And that my idea of having a backyard-barbecue type thing was a little lacking, compared to his planning of an enormous, grandiose wedding. =D

Also, my pirate ship wedding idea has been rejected. He did say that it would be an option if we had it Pirates 3 style: while swordfighting in a windy vortex of the undead.

*sigh*

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Oh, no no no. I wasn't . . .

*sighsmile*

I was mentioning my having congratulated you over AIM recently to note that the person who seemed to have caused the screened comment -- me -- actually had been congratulatory, though you hadn't yet realized that I was that person. I wasn't saying that I'd been congratulatory in that post, or that you had known until just then that the post was by me.

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